Highlights include “I just fuck you when I’m bored,” “If you get a massage tonight, I get pussy,” and the classic “Send nudes.”
“There are plenty of nice boys out there,” said Zharnest. “It’s just unfortunate that some boys are like that.”
“I’m a size 18 and my absolute favorite things to wear are short, flowy skirts. However, I’m extremely self-conscious of my legs, so normally I cover up with some leggings. On this day though, I knew I was going to the beach so I decided to forgo them. That decision felt scary and wrong but turned out to be so right. I felt so free, comfortable and gorgeous. Isn’t that how everyone should feel when they put (or don’t put) something on?” —reginaadlg
“As a size 16, this is one of the first pictures I took where I felt even remotely sexy. It brought out my confidence, and it made me realize that I’ve never had a reason to be self-conscious. It’s all about accepting yourself in your own skin and as soon as you do that, your life will change for the better.” —samanthah453ee4af2
“I just flippin’ love this picture of myself. It took me a long time to love myself, and my love for fashion helped me love myself more. The more time I spent developing my own personal style, the more that I realized I was worthy and beautiful. This is the first of many full body pictures that I will be taking to celebrate my beauty and remind everyone else to celebrate their beauty as well, regardless of size.” —baileyann16
“It’s taken me a long time to be comfortable and confident in who I am. All throughout school, I was told that I was fat and ugly and would never be beautiful or loved. After I graduated high school, I got a better group of friends and positive influences and learned to style myself just a bit. Now, I don’t have a shortage of pictures that I love of myself. I’m constantly hearing positive things about myself, and I’m in a better place mentally and emotionally to where I don’t depend on others/men for my self worth.” —vanessaraechellel
“I had my son three years ago and went from a size 3 to a size 16. It took a while to be comfortable with my new self but now there is just more of me to love. I am a huge Star Wars fan and when I saw this bathing suit this summer, I wasn’t going to let my curves stop me from wearing this. I am more confident now then I have ever been in my life, and I thank that all to my son.” —birthofarebel
“One of my best friends is a photographer and wanted to practice taking boudoir photos. I volunteered because why not? I wasn’t sure what to expect, or if I’d like the end results. To say I was pleasantly surprised is an understatement. I rocked it in all my size 18, 33-year-old glory!” —calliey4cb91ff68
Some responses have been edited for length and clarity.
Or call centre workers, for that matter. Sure, we wear a headset and take calls, but we’re saving lives, not doing a standard 9-to-5.
We call these sort of calls “BBA”: born before arrival, and it involves talking someone, usually the father, through the process of delivering the baby. You never forget the parents you help, or the joy of hearing a baby’s first cry.
Yes, we’re trained to seem cool and collected, but our heart is always racing while explaining to panicked parents how to do CPR on their own kid. Thankfully, many of these calls have good outcomes, but some don’t, and that’s very hard.
You just have to stay calm, try not to agonise about the situation afterwards, or spend hours turning it over in your head and asking yourself whether you could have done something differently and saved the person’s life. It won’t help.
We get a lot of calls from people who say they want to end their life and don’t feel like they have anywhere else to turn. All we can do is keep them on the phone, comfort them, find out where they are, and send the police and an ambulance.
We understand that people are often experiencing traumatic stuff, but please remember we’re here to help. The sweariest, nastiest calls tend to come from drunk people, and these make up the majority of weekend shifts. It’s not OK.
Like people who say they’ve been attacked by aliens, people with their hands, heads, and legs stuck in railings. And, of course, people who’ve “fallen off lions”.
Like: “Help, there’s a fox in my garden,” or “My goldfish is drowning.” It’s ridiculous that people think 999 is suitable for this. We try to get these sort of callers off the phone as quickly as possible as they’re blocking life-threatening emergencies.
These people are often drunk and super embarrassed. It can be hard to coax out the details about what’s wrong, but once you finally get them to admit they’ve got a loo roll holder or an aubergine stuck up their bum, you can get them some help.
Never while we’re on the phone (unless you count silent tears), but we certainly aren’t robots, and some calls can hit a nerve. For instance, if you’ve just had a baby and someone calls with a seriously ill child that you struggle to save.
We actually only get around four to six weeks of training in first aid and relevant computer programs, and also one-to-one support for our first 10 shifts.
This is pretty fun, but you have to hope you’re not assigned a weekend night as it’ll just be wall-to-wall aggressive drunks. It’s also quite tricky if you’re squeamish, as you’ll be expected to be a full member of the team and help dress wounds.
After all, we’ll spend a lot of our time telling panicked people how to perform CPR over the phone. It’s always an awesome feeling when you walk someone through CPR and the patient lives – it can make a shitty day much better.
We’re not clinicians, so the system helps us by automatically dispatching an ambulance as soon as an address is typed in, deciding which symptoms are the most critical, and assigning the call one of four levels of urgency. It’s pretty handy.
It’s genuinely nerve-racking. You do eventually get to grips with the most regular types of call (choking is a very common issue), but even after several years, some unusual calls and symptoms can throw you into the unknown.
Sometimes just getting an address takes several minutes, especially if the caller is drunk or on drugs, which is often the case at weekends. People often assume we know where they are, and hang up. We’re not psychic; we need information.
Unfortunately ambulances can’t drive over the traffic. People also don’t like to answer questions, but we need to know more so that we can decide who gets an ambulance first (or at all). A heart attack is more of a priority than a hangover or cut finger, so be nice and answer questions.
Especially when you consider the types of traumatic calls and situations we have to deal with on a daily basis. The UK salary scale is around £23,861 to £27,569.
We usually do around four 12-hour shifts (often overnight), followed by three days off. Getting home from work when everyone else is still in bed can be really confusing, especially if you’ve had a difficult day and need someone to talk to.
Guys, we know you like us, but we can’t always make it to your party. Also, for the love of god please stop calling us before 4pm if you know we’re on nights.
We can sometimes swap shifts, but it’s not exactly easy to find someone who’s willing to cover Christmas Day or New Year for you, especially as the festive season is our busiest time of the year (booze + ice = lots of accidents).
Sure, you can try to chat, but you only manage to say half a sentence before you hear a bleep and the next call arrives. Even when you’re chatting after a shift, you’re hesitant because you think you can hear the ghost of a bleep in your ear.
Depending on how easily grossed out you are, of course. If you can deal with blood and other bodily fluids, it’s really rewarding. But a lot of us prefer to stay at the end of the phone and deal with things remotely. It’s a lot cleaner, for a start.
It’s not unheard of for kids as young as 3 to call us to let us know their parent is sick or unresponsive. In fact, kids are often the best callers as they always do exactly what you say without questioning you. If everything goes well, they often come in to visit us afterwards, and it’s always wonderful when they do.
It really isn’t. We enjoy our jobs, we’re proud of what we do, we love helping people in their time of need, and we wouldn’t change it for the world. After all, who wouldn’t want to be part of a team that saves hundreds of lives every day?
We’d appreciate it if you could stop swearing at us, though. Cheers.
“Je länger Du Dein Haar in einer Länge trägst, desto schneller verliert es seinen Halt und sein Volumen”, sagt Anthony Nader, Promi-Stylist und Kreativdirektor vom Salon RAW in Sydney. Ein stufiger Schnitt sieht wahrscheinlich auch nach Monaten ohne Nachschneiden noch gestylt aus.
Stufen sind so ziemlich der Schlüssel.
Ein kurzer Pixie ist im Grunde durch und durch gestuft und ganz ohne stumpfe Linien. Wenn Deine Spitzen so langsam etwas mehr Länge bekommen, kann Gel oder Schaum Dir helfen, Dein Haar von den Augen weg zu stylen.
Wenn Du einmal diese Länge erreicht hast, hast Du diese Übergangslänge hinter Dir. Und wenn Dein Haar erst einmal so lang ist, ist es auch weniger wahrscheinlich, dass Du es regelmäßig trocken föhnst. Das bedeutet, dass die Spitzen länger gesund bleiben.
Wenn Du nur wegen Deines Ponys zum Friseur gehst, bitte ihn einfach nur diesen Teil zu frisieren, um Zeit und Geld zu sparen.
“Solche Produkte ‘versiegeln’ nur. Das heißt, sie reparieren Deine Spitzen nicht wirklich – nur ein Haarschnitt kann das”, so der Stylist Anthony Nader. “Sie verdecken die Problemzone kosmetisch, aber eben nur für kurze Zeit. Bis dahin solltest Du einen Termin zum Nachschneiden ausmachen.”
“Dein nasses Haar ist sehr empfindlich. Trockne Dein Haar darum vorsichtig und Du wirst feststellen, dass es sehr viel weniger abbricht.”
Ziehst Du an Deinem nassen Haar, bricht es schnell.
Denk auch immer daran, vor dem Föhnen, Glätten oder Locken einen Hitzeschutz aufzutragen. “Styling mit Hitze saugt Feuchtigkeit aus Deinem Haar”, sagt Nader. “Gesundes Aussehen erfordert Pflege.“
“Diese Art Bürste massiert nicht nur Deine Kopfhaut, sie arbeitet auch mit dem natürlichen Fett und Glanz jeder einzelnen Haarsträhne.”
“Je mehr verschiedene Schattierungen Du hast, desto weniger Termine brauchst Du, um Deine Farbe aufzufrischen”, so der Friseur.
That guy was 69-year-old John McMillan, a Scottish immigrant and owner of the restaurant.
“I was just blown away,” he said. So he asked where everyone was and McMillan said he’d been struggling to get people in the door.
“He said he hasn’t been able to pay himself, and the last few months have been the worst he’s ever been though,” said Ross.
He posted a photo of the shop with a plea for people to pay McMillan a visit.
“Anyone who knows me, I have a big heart and want people to do well,” wrote Ross, “especially a 70-year-old man who has put in his time.”
“The owner was a gem, real classy stand-up guy, so I ask everyone in Lethbridge to share this and go support this hard working gentleman,” he wrote.
After years of hard work, Ross says McMillan deserves it.
“He’s just really good-hearted, super awesome guy. I got a really good vibe right off the bat,” said Ross.
McMillan told Global News it had always been his dream to open a fish and chips restaurant and now, thanks to Ross’s post, hundreds of people are now enjoying that dream.
“He did it out of the goodness of his heart and Lethbridge came and did it out of the goodness of their hearts,” McMillan told Global.
The text of the piece read:
X Factor stars show it’s a case of sinky pinky and perky with contrasting bikini styles.
Stacey, 26 who finished third on the 2009 series of the talent show, seemed to have trouble keeping hers on while on holiday in Ibiza. Meanwhile, last year’s winner Louisa, 18, showed how it should be done while on a break in LA.
It read: “Top flop…former X Factor singer Stacey gets that sinking feeling.”
If @StaceySolomon can get body shamed with that banging body, what hope is there for any of us!! #looksfab #gogirl
— claire davis (@clairedavis2323)
I LOVE MY BODY @TheSun My boobs are a result of being pregnant & breast feeding & I love them. I Am just as sexy! 👙
— Stacey Solomon (@StaceySolomon)
💛 ur comments so much. It Means a lot. currently swinging my saggy maggies around the pool on holiday with these 2💙
— Stacey Solomon (@StaceySolomon)
@StaceySolomon The world needs more tweets like this! You are brilliant Stacey, stay awesome and powerful 💖
— Al Mooney (@al_mooney)
shout out to @StaceySolomon for not rising to @TheSun by trying to bring down louisa in retaliation 💘 #eliminategirlhate
— pj vogt’s laugh (@kxthleen)
@WendyPinder @KRihanoff @TeamRihanoff @StaceySolomon @TheSun They should b ashamed well said ! Gutter press as usual, she looks lovely 😊
— joyce Jordan (@joyceJo49834475)
Baron 9s to be exact. AKA THESE. They cost a pretty penny.
“I actually had to brush my teeth with my fingers since I was running late to work,” she said.
Well, it didn’t take a detective for Habiq to put together what had happened. Apparently, Hibaq said, “This isn’t the first time he used my toothbrush to clean his shoes.”
My little brother used my toothbrush to clean his shoes so I gave them a lil extra shine 🙃
— hbq (@pettybaq_)
The masterfulness. Hibaq said she came up with the idea with her sister when they were doing their makeup. They wanted “to teach him a lesson.”
“Not too long ago he dumped cold water on my head while I was showering,” she said. “We’ve been going back and forth with pranks ever since.”
BONUS: Dieses gute Gefühl den Kleber von Deiner Haut abzuziehen.
Funktioniert auch mit einer Schüssel Eiswasser.
Bobby Pin Hacks-Spray your bobby pins with hairspray before use to add staying power on hair
— Women Daily Magazine (@womendailym)
Most makeup lines have foundation specifically for warm (pink), cool (blue), and neutral (in between) undertones, and you should buy according to the kind that works for you. Read the full tutorial here.
Schooling, 21, claimed the first ever gold medal for Singapore with his Olympic record time of 50.39sec. American Phelps, 31, took an unprecedented three-way joint silver with a time of 51.14sec alongside South Africa’s Chad le Clos and Hungary’s Laszlo Cseh.
The event marked Phelps’ final solo men’s race, and while he said he was not happy to be denied a 23rd gold medal, he told The Guardian, “I’m proud of Joe,” who the champion swimmer had first met in 2008 after visiting a training camp in Singapore during the Beijing games.
Schooling remembered being “shell-shocked” when his hero Phelps visited his swimming club.
“With the people we have in the sport now I think you are seeing it,” Phelps said.
Schooling said he was “humbled” to have beaten his hero in the race, and credited Phelps with his success.
“If it wasn’t for Michael, I don’t think I could have gotten to this point. I wanted to be like him as a kid,” he added.
While they may have slightly less staying power than the products they emulate, finding a cheap dupe means being able to test out a color or trend without committing your life savings to the cause.
While every shade of makeup will look different on every skin tone, DupeThat’s finds showcase the similarity of product colors as accurately as possible.
Shattered is no longer available, but Endless Sea is a great alternative!
Great pic in O Globo. Egypt (left) v Germany in beach volleyball
— Barney Ronay (@barneyronay)
Elghobashy was wearing a long-sleeved shirt, leggings, and a hijab, a headscarf many Muslim women choose to wear. Walkenhorst, on the other hand, is wearing a bikini.
“I have worn the hijab for 10 years,” Elghobashy told the Associated Press after the match. “It doesn’t keep me away from the things I love to do, and beach volleyball is one of them.”
Culture clash. #volleyball #Rio2016
— craig stone (@craigstone_)
Note: A burka is another garment altogether, one that covers the entire head and body.
New rules that were put in place before the 2012 Olympics in London give women more options for what to wear in beach volleyball. The change was meant to give more “flexibility” to countries with “religious and cultural requirements,” the International Volleyball Federation said at the time.
And having a local tell you, “It’s rained more this week than it normally does in a year!”
Your poor, usually sun-deprived body just can’t handle it.
So it turns out you can’t learn an entire language in a week.
And feeling betrayed by your usually trusty sat nav.
You had the entire winter to catch a cold, but, no, your body decides to get one right in the middle of August.
Everyone you meet for the rest of the trip assumes you hurt yourself doing something adventurous, like climbing. But, really, you did your back in during limbo.
Bonus points if the crying baby is yours.
It’s only the second day and I already stepped on a cactus #ouch #azprobs #vacationfail
— Alyssa Handmaker (@ahandyyyy)
Tip: Stay away from the prickly stuff.
#holidayfail i went to stroke a stray cat but it bit me and i had to go to hospital
— hannah (@indielester)
Tip: Cats are mean, wherever you go.
“It’s just a spot of rain – nothing to worry about.”
There’s something about holidays that makes you think you’re a pro at every sport known to mankind.
TFW your dad starts wearing his sunglasses behind his head.
It’s okay, though, because the only person who’ll look at the photos when you’re back is your mum.
Word to the wise: make sure you book your ferry in the correct direction. #VacationFail #IWishIWasJoking ⛴
— Laura Woodworth (@laura_woodworth)
Ah, well. Staying at home is underrated.
A moment on Insta = a lifetime on your bank account.
Home From Home allows you to use your phone in 31 European countries this summer, just like you do at home. Lifesaver.
Melt a cube of herby butter whenever you need to sauté veggies for a quick dinner, add to the middle of a roast chicken, or let thaw on a plate for dipping bread. And never waste a good bunch of herbs again. Read the full tutorial here.
In a multi-person bathroom, everyone could have their own cubby for their toothbrush and toothpaste…and everyone could be responsible for keeping their own cubby clean.
See more of this organized master bathroom here.
Just be sure to store the things you have to replace most often on the outside of the rod, so they’re easy to swap out. See more garage and workspace organization tips here.
So is pretty much everyone else. But with no official guide available, some specifics of the game remain elusive. Luckily, Redditor Phozee has put together one of the most comprehensive user guides available right now. It includes some general tips, plus facts gleaned from the game’s actual code.
1. The highest trainer level you can reach is 40.
2. Eggs cap at trainer level 20, so anything you hatch past that point will have level 20 stats.
3. Wild Pokémon cap at level 30, so anything you catch in the wild past that point will have level 30 stats. You’ll have to use stardust and candy to level them up, so save it up!
4. Curveballs, as well as “nice,” “great,” and “excellent” throws, make you more likely to catch a Pokémon.
5. Incense works better when you move. If you stand still, you’ll encounter Pokémon every 300 seconds. But if you move about 200 meters each minute, you’ll encounter one every 60 seconds.
6. Bonus XP doesn’t always stack, but some users have noted that you can get XP from a throw bonus and a curveball bonus at the same time.
7. Some Pokémon are more likely than others to escape.
8. All Pokémon are slightly more likely to escape as you level up.
9. Mewtwo, Moltres, Zapdos, and Articuno are considered legendary Pokémon. None have been caught yet.
10. Mew is considered a mythic Pokémon.
11. Your special attacks charge based on how much damage you do (at a rate of 0.5 points per 1 HP of damage), so a “super effective” attack will usually charge more than a regular one.
12. Experience points needed to level up increases exponentially at higher trainer levels. It takes five million XP to get from level 39 to level 40.
13. Pokémon have three stats: attack, defense, and stamina/HP. Different Pokémon have different base stats, so an attack with a “12” next to it will do different damage across different Pokémon, even at similar CP levels.
14. Dragonite has the highest base attack (250) of all currently released Pokémon.
15. Mewtwo’s base attack is the highest in the game at 284.
16. Pokémon have “evolution modifiers,” which determine how much their stats improve when they evolve. It’s a different range for each Pokémon, but is usually somewhere between 1.5 and 2.5 on average.
17. The legendary Pokémon —Zapdos, Moltres, Articuno, and Mewtwo — do have a spawn rate in the code, so they should show up eventually.
18. However, the legendary Pokémon have a capture rate of zero, which means they would be impossible to capture by normal means.
19. The Master Ball exists in the code, so you might need one to capture your legendary. Niantic also hinted at the possibility of “raids,” so that might be how you get them.
20. There’s a damage bonus called “STAB” in the game, which means that if your Pokémon has moves that are the same type as the Pokémon itself, they do extra damage. So for example, a Rock-type Pokémon will do more damage with Rock-type moves than, say, Normal-type moves.
21. No one is absolutely sure how the game tracks movement for egg-hatching, but results seem to be more accurate when traveling in a straight line at a walking speed.
22. If you want a strong Pokémon that’s easy to get, get a Vaporeon. It’s stats and attack speed are abnormally high right now (possibly by mistake), making it the second-strongest Pokémon in the game overall, next to Mewtwo.
23. If you need a Vaporeon, try this evolution trick…but consistency has been spotty. Try closing and restarting the app after you rename for better results.
Dr.Mae Carol Jemison, the first African American woman to travel in space. #BlackWomenDidThat
— Media’s New Queen (@MadisonJaye_)
Sade, the most successful solo British female artist in history. #BlackWomenDidThat
— Maame Yaa (Karen) (@whythedarkness)
Twitter doesn’t have enough characters to run Oprah’s resume, so I’ll just drop this here. #blackwomendidthat #oprah
— Ariel (@FashionDevotee)
X-Men leader, Queen of Wakanda, Headmistress for the Jean Grey School For Higher Learning, Badass #BlackWomenDidThat
— Black Girl Nerds (@BlackGirlNerds)
Ethel Payne. Pioneering journalist. First Lady of the Black Press. Chicagoan. #BlackWomenDidThat #ADeltaDidThat
— Fortitude1913 (@Fortitude1913)
Elaine Welteroth is the first black editor-in-chief ( and youngest ever) of @TeenVogue #BlackWomenDidThat ✨🙌🏾 📇
— Alex Millet (@_achristiangirl)
.@violadavis – the first Black actress to win an Emmy for Lead Actress Drama. #BlackWomenDidThat
— Christine Choute (@christinechoute)
Professor Wangari Maathai, the first African woman to receive the Nobel Peace Prize. #BlackWomenDidThat
— ☜═㋡ J!M (◣﹏◢) (@_JMOxQ)
Ava DuVernay 1st African American Woman Director awarded at Sundance & nom at GoldenGlobes. #BlackWomenDidThat
— Lizy (@lizcriolla)
@MaraBrockAkil – creator and showrunner of “Girlfriends” “The Game” “Being Mary Jane” #BlackWomenDidThat
— Rebecca Theodore (@FilmFatale_NYC)
The REAL OG #HarrietTubman escorted over 300 slaves to freedom. #BlackWomenDidThat
— Media’s New Queen (@MadisonJaye_)
#BlackWomenDidThat this woman for being an inspiration to young ladies.❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏾
— Alessia Sasso (@alessiasasso2)
Breaking records #BlackWomenDidThat
— Ruthless (@RuthOhanu)
One of the best athletes on the planet. Period. Serena Jameka Williams.
— WhatFreshHellisThis? (@LisaBolekaja)
Has the highest grossing tour for an African American artist #BlackWomenDidThat
— 6’4 Fag (@xxjewelsndrugs)
Rosa Parks Statue, Capitol’s First Of African-American Woman, To Be Dedicated
— ♕ Nathan ♕ (@MrInternationl)
“I have a 5-year-old daughter and halfway through watching it with me, she said, ‘Finn keeps coming to save her but she doesn’t need his help. She can save herself.’ Nailed it.”
Submitted by tinal485d883b9
“She kicked ass and showed that she doesn’t need a man to be her awesome self. She wasn’t someone who was always doubting herself, or being self-deprecating. She showed confidence and ingenuity. She inspires me to be my best self, to believe in myself, and to not be afraid to take risks.”
Submitted by tennisfolife
“Her ‘never give up, never back down, and never apologise for being yourself’ attitude was inspiring to me. Parks and Rec featured a lot of the struggles a women in politics, and other positions, go through in a comedic yet poignant way.”
Submitted by chloejuleann
“Not only did she inspire me to become strong, loving, and caring to those I cherish the most, but she has also taught me to be brave and fight for what you think is right. She has been a part of me ever since I met her. I’ll always love her.”
Submitted by e4335d746e
“Not only does she empower me as a woman, but she’s one of the few queer women on television who just so happens to be a leader of one of the most badass groups of people ever.”
Submitted by sophiad41cde572a
“Hermione was better represented in the book series, because there was more of her presence. Her being a genius. Her being a savior in her own right. Without her, Harry would’ve still been trying to figure out what the Philosopher’s Stone even was. From the time I started the books to finishing the movies, she has shown me never to let anyone diminish your fire or love of anything. Because of Hermione I embraced my book smarts, love of reading, and sassiness. I was able to be confident in my intellect and I thank her for that. Every girl or woman should learn this and feel this on a daily basis and know that if a man doesn’t stick around or appreciate you like Harry and Ron appreciated her, they need to go straight to Azkaban.”
Submitted by ekfutrell22
“She is a superhero who is inherently flawed, suffers from PTSD, and is a recovering abuse victim. Despite ALL of that, and being stalked by her abuser, she still remains strong and STILL chooses to do the right thing. Her story is not only empowering for women and abuse survivors, it also shows the world what it’s truly like living with PTSD.”
Submitted by jjwhattt
“She has superpowers but she’s scared of being controlled. She’s scared of a time when she felt like her abuse was her own fault because she wasn’t strong enough. But in the end she takes charge of her own narrative. She’s such a hero to me.”
Submitted by abbyj6
“They have been abused, raped, and held captive by a psychotic madman, two of them are pregnant with his children, they are told they are property, they are sex slaves. Yet they still have strength, they are given an opportunity to escape, and they take it. They are not passive, only relying on Furiosa to save them. They help save themselves too. They help Furiosa fight, they load guns, they shield her with their own bodies. They look after Furiosa when she’s hurt and help Max save her. They are badass women too, they show that victims can survive and be strong.”
Submitted by meganc4d2b12f97
“She’s amazing. So layered. She’s strong yet vulnerable. She has femininity and power, but she breaks sometimes. She’s beautiful and fierce. She is imperfect and makes mistakes, but she always learns from them. She is an amazing woman, played by an amazing woman.”
Submitted by Sam Akira, Facebook
“She is so smart and passionate— it’s great having a female engineer be front and centre in a film. And it’s so awesome to have a queer woman with so much swagger and style in a film to empower us all.”
Submitted by eleanorak
“She’s an amazing representation for queer girls – unlike so many other plot lines of queer characters, she reminds us that your story doesn’t have to end in tragedy or death. That you don’t have be a stereotype, that you can rock the world, that your sexuality doesn’t define you. She gave all queer girls and women a queer action hero and positive representation on screen, and brings hope that you can have a happy ending too.”
Submitted by wssarl
“As a child I always assumed I would one day fit into the female gender norms that surrounded me every day and she taught me that you can do anything you want to in life and be amazing at it – while still looking completely gorgeous!”
Submitted by emiliaw45c46acbe
“She has had so much heartbreak in her life but she just keeps fighting. Not only does she physically kick ass against bad guys, but she is incredibly smart and driven. Her mother’s murder is why she became a cop, and for years she closed herself off to others so she wouldn’t be hurt again, but she does begin to open up. The most badass thing about her though, is her fight with PTSD after being shot in the heart, and her desire to be more than the person she was before the shooting. She shows you can win the fight against your own demons.”
Submitted by charlotteh4378e2207
I was (and still am) dealing with a huge eating disorder, and I looked to the outcasts of society – mutants – for support. Rogue was everything I was: mysterious, strong, beautiful, and unique. She was also tragically plagued by her biological mutation which connected so much with me. I hated my body, which truly is a blessing and a curse. She hated her mutant powers which caused her the same emotional reactions. Still, she was strong and preserved, finding love and happiness! She taught me to love myself and understand the superhero I was.
Submitted by ruthieanns
“She was a consummate soldier without being a stereotype. She was a fierce warrior but never a bully. And none of that precluded her from being a loyal friend, a loving and affectionate wife, and desire to have a family. She showed that being a tough, badass warrior woman and a warm, sexual and nurturing feminine presence are not mutually exclusive; you can be both at once.”
Submitted by irishcowgirl
“She never depended on anyone to help her raise her daughter, support her financially, or help her start her own business with her best friend. She raised a daughter to go to Yale and she proved that just because you love pop culture and junk food, it doesn’t mean you can’t be smart and independent.”
Submitted by Nicole Scamp, Facebook.
“She’s flawed and makes many, many mistakes, but she always tries to be there for her friends. Also, her mental illnesses helped me to feel more normal for having my own. She may not be a perfect character, but she’s real, and deals with a lot of issues women face every day.”
Submitted by ashtonb4848a5771
“While working in a world dominated by men she was the smartest, funniest, classiest person in any room. Made the shift from (spoiler alert) press secretary to chief of staff with grace and confidence. She shattered the glass ceiling. And can do a kick-ass cover of the Jackal. Love her.”
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“She’s been my role model basically for forever, and her strength and compassion in SVU inspires me to be a better person. Her commitment to the women in the show taught me to always support the women in my life. She truly embodies the woman I want to be.”
Submitted by claireification
“She is the epitome of ‘girl power’ — she proves that your life, your happiness, is not about what someone else does or doesn’t do. It’s about you and your gift, and putting that first and foremost. Giving to get. Not worrying about what others think or impressing some guy, but rather impressing yourself. Making your dreams happen and changing the world in the process.”
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“I absolutely adore her. For a young female character who barely speaks, Eleven is powerful and expressive. She’s been through psychological hell and still holds friendship and keeping her promises as her highest values.”
Submitted by Siobhan Gleason, Facebook.
“As a kid who grew up with an abusive parent, it was so inspiring to see this woman, having experienced something similar, becoming extremely successful.”
Submitted by Samantha Orion Lange, Facebook.
“I first saw it when I was about 8 or 9 years old. It was my first encounter with a strong female character who was liberally portrayed as a tomboy. She was later viewed as a hero in her own right AND she got the guy in the end. After seeing this film, I was proud to be a woman, even if it meant wearing flats instead of heels.”
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“She dressed as a man to save her father from having to go to war, worked her way from the the worst soldier to one of the best in the Chinese army, and EARNED THE RESPECT AND FUCKING HONOR OF ALL OF CHINA EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS A WOMAN. She’s amazing.”
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“Growing up watching Buffy definitely shaped my view on women. She’s the biggest badass going but that doesn’t mean she ever becomes hard or cold. She’s feminine, funny and vulnerable while still kicking ass until dawn. When Spike says ‘I love how you try,’ it’s the essence of Buffy – it’s not about the winning or the slaying, it’s about getting up every morning and doing what you can to make the world better, even if no one thanks you for it.”
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“She really inspired me as a young woman to believe in my strength. Though she faced adversity, Katniss ultimately did what was right, even when it wasn’t easy. Plus, her inner thoughts on family, love, and loss rang so true for so many people! A truly real, flawed, beautiful, badass woman.”
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“She was the first example I saw where a female protagonist wasn’t perfect all the time and not everything felt like it was about the guy. She was dark and twisty, and she could be that but still remain strong and fierce. Best of all, she was in love but never changed who she was because of that – and he wasn’t the centre of her universe, which for someone used to rom-coms like me, was kind of crazy.”
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“She’s had traumatic events happen to her – rape, alcoholic and abandoning mother, dead best friend – yet she’s still strong, confident and not afraid to ask for help when she needs it.”
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“She was a witty, intelligent, and badass private detective and knew how to crack any case. But aside from her sarcastic humour and quick wit, she was also very inspirational for girls. She was never afraid to speak her mind, or stand up for what she believed in, even if that meant facing danger and adversaries. As a little girl, I always wanted to be like Veronica Mars who never backed down and used her smarts to save the day.”
Submitted by Nym Carters, Facebook.
“Not only would she be considered a total badass in today’s world, what with her super-secret, physically and mentally demanding job saving the world and all, but much of her accomplishments took place in an era when women had even fewer occupational options outside of being housewives and mothers. Like so many real women who due to World War II were able to work outside the home in traditionally male occupations for the war effort, Peggy also had to deal with the end of the war and the societal expectation that she step aside and let the men do the real work. Agent Carter sets such a positive example for young girls of today.”
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Many people shared with us the tattoos they got to cover or reclaim scars from self-harm.
Warning: This post contains images and anecdotes surrounding self-harm, eating disorders, sexual abuse, and suicide.
“Nobody has ever brought up my scars for the years I’ve been doing it. My little brother is 8 and everyone knows I am his biggest role model. One day he asked me, ‘What happened?’ and pointed to my wrist. I made up a story, but I didn’t want him finding out what it really was and thinking it was an OK thing to do because I’ve done it. I instantly made an appointment to get them covered up.
I feel so much more proud of myself now than I ever have.”
“Five years of self harming and two suicide attempts, but I’m now three years clean and my tattoo is a reminder of how strong I am, having pulled myself out of the dark place I was in for so long. Self-harm is an addiction I still fight with on the daily, but having my tattoo over five years worth of scarring is an everyday reminder of how I can keep up my strength.
“The blue roses are my favorite flower, and the butterfly from the Butterfly Project that helped me start my recovery. My tattoo is only a few months old, but I love it as much now as I did when I first drew the idea.”
“This is just the start of a sleeve, but it was the most important part. Since the age of 11, I’ve been through so much death, depression, and things an 11-year-old really shouldn’t have to deal with. By the time I was 18, I turned to self-harming. I decided to cover the scar this year (I’m 27 now) because I feel like I can finally close that chapter on my life. I know it will always be there, but at least people won’t ask me about it.
“I chose a heart and the word ‘itsumo’ (it means ‘forever’) because heart conditions run in my family. And a strong heart and family got me through the dark days and will always get me through the dark days.”
“After suffering from severe anxiety and depression which resulted in self-harm, I decided to get a willow tree tattoo over my scars. I chose the willow tree because it is a well-known symbol of adaptability due to its ability to not only survive, but also thrive in some of the most challenging conditions.”
“This is only covering two scars from self-harm, but it means a lot to the rest of them… It represents that even when you feel deeper than rock bottom there is always the potential to start a new life once you reach out. I was going to get a full sleeve tattoo to cover everything, but I decided not to hide my story. I love the tattoo, though, because now when people ask what happened, whether it’s a customer, a stranger, classmate or date, I can just say “Shit happened, but I grew from it,” and 9 times out of 10, no further questions.”
“I got this to cover up years’ worth of self-harm scars. The symbol in the middle is the logo for National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA). They help raise money and awareness for eating disorders. And above it is the butterfly. When I went into treatment for my anorexia I stayed in a house called Mariposa, which means butterfly in Spanish.
“This tattoo means more to me then most people can understand. It has helped me heal and it has helped me keep moving forward with my recovery. I purposely got this tattoo where I did, not only to cover my scars, but also to help raise awareness. Most people see it and ask what it is and what it means. This helps open the conversation up and usually a discussion starts. Too many people think it’s such a taboo topic, but that is what makes it such a deadly disease. Everybody knows somebody who has or had an eating disorder.”
“After years of depression with suicidal ideation and self-harm, I decided not to cover my scars. I’ve had many deep and meaningful conversations with people about their own struggles when they see my scars. I decided instead to remind myself that I can be stronger than my illness.”
“After several years of dealing with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, suicide attempts, and self-harm, I got my tattoo of the Leo constellation, my zodiac sign, around my self-harm scars along my thighs. There’s a quote that says, ‘Stars are the scars of the universe,’ so I view my body as the universe and my scars as the stars. The tattoo really helped me to reclaim by body and learn to love it, scars and all.”
“‘Braille’ is a song by Regina Spektor about the scars that you wear, which may not be visible or may be hard to see, caused by our struggles in life.
“After a suicide attempt, my doctor put me on an anti-psychotic. For the first time in my life, I felt clarity. It was like breathing or seeing the sun for the first time. That day I promised myself that I am worth saving and I would never cut again. I decided to get this tattoo, which I would never cut through, to remind myself of my promise. Though I still struggle and I will never be ‘cured,’ I have lived to age 25 and just graduated from college; something I never thought I’d be able to do. I am proud of myself. My scars may have faded and may be hard to interpret for someone who has never struggled with mental illness, but they are still a part of me.”
“[I got] the phrase ‘A time to mourn, a time to dance,’ with a semicolon, on top of some of my scars on my wrist from when I used to self-harm in the midst of an eating disorder shortly after my lupus diagnosis in 2006, when I was 16.”
“A few years ago I had decided that I wanted to take my life. I nearly succeeded in what would’ve been a huge mistake. I cut so deep I got multiple layers of stitches. I carried the scar for two years ’til I decided, ‘Hey, I survived. I’m tattooed everywhere else, why the hell haven’t I covered up that scar with something beautiful?!’ Now when I look at my arm I am never reminded of what I did. I always just see a super cool kitty ready to listen to great jams with me.”
“I got lyrics from ‘Failing Is Not Just for Failures’ by Listener over scars from self-harm on my arm. It reminds me that I can either stay where I am, and let my depression call the shots, or I can push through the darkness and keep going. Whenever I’m having a bad day I can look down and remind myself of the strength that’s in me to keep fighting.”
“My freshman year of college, I cheated on my boyfriend with whom I had been having arguments because he was in the Navy and the distance was causing major issues. It broke his heart, and I hated myself for it so I cut myself on my left arm. Last year, I decided I was tired of looking at my scars, and since I will be graduating this year and then working in a school setting, I decided I would rather my students and their parents see a tasteful tattoo rather than three slits.
“The compass symbolizes having a sense of direction, the mandala represents the search for self-unity and completeness, and the manipura chakra symbol in the center reminds me that my self-esteem is important, that I must respect myself at all times, my confidence is key, and to be proactive rather than reactive. I got it done in brown ink to mimic a henna tattoo. I have no regrets.”
“I struggled with self-harm for 11 years. Last year, I made it a full year without cutting for the first time since I was 10. I got this phoenix to cover the scars on my left arm. Rising from the ashes, I am alive again. Now, a year after this tattoo, I am happily married and pregnant with my first child. Whenever things look bleak, I remember how far I’ve come with this ink.”
“I started self-harming when I was 11 years old, and I’m approaching 18, being clean of it for the past year. We lost my grandmother almost a year ago to the day. When I was 14, I asked my mom if I could get a tattoo if I could manage to not hurt myself for a year. I stayed true to my word, and hadn’t originally planned to get this tattoo. It’s my grandmother’s handwriting to always keep me grounded and so that I have a small piece of her so close to a part of me that was [associated with self-harm, which was] so hard to overcome. It wasn’t what I originally intended, but after losing her, I knew it’s what I needed. I got it just one month shy of one year ago.”
“At a point in my life (September 2015) I was suicidal, and I was sitting on my front porch just burning myself with a cigarette over and over… Once the scars healed, and I was OK, I decided to get a traditional rose to cover up my burns. I have to still go back and get a touch-up on some parts where the scars are still slightly visible. It may not be the most beautiful tattoo, but it represents growth. I love my tattoo. It’s beautiful to me, and it’s the only tattoo my mother approves of because of its meaning.”
“I got this done maybe five years after I stopped self-harming. It’s also good motivation to not do it anymore because I wouldn’t want to ruin it. I hear people say it hurts more to tattoo over scars though I honestly didn’t notice a difference. I know my scars are still visible (less than before, thank goodness) but getting this for myself just made me feel like I’m finally leaving it in the past.
Also it is very heavily inspired by René Lalique.”
“I suffered from depression and self-harmed for almost six years. I got this tattoo as a reminder that I overcame mountains to get to the place where I am in my life, and as encouragement to keep on climbing.”
“I have two tattoos that cover self-harm scars. The first is on my shoulder, the first place I ever cut. It’s in Elvish, but it translates to ‘love never fails.’ The second tattoo is still a work in progress, it’s also Lord of the Rings–themed. The shards of the sword remind me that something broken can still be useful, and also that broken things can be remade into something stronger.”
“My grandpa sexually abused me since I was a small child. For a long time, I felt like my body didn’t belong to me. As retaliation, I began self-harming. I carved up my ribs, my breasts, my thighs. They were all the things he loved too much, and I wanted to destroy them. After recovery, my mom bought me scar cream and they faded. Even still, I felt a disconnect from my body. I started letting boys toss me around and abuse me. I saw myself as nothing but a sex object.
“Earlier this year, I relapsed. I was so angry and embarrassed at how weak I still was… So after some thought and saving, I went into a tattoo parlor and got a blooming peony on my sternum and ribs. I wanted to plant something beautiful where something ugly used to be. It’s still not finished, and needs coloring when I can afford it, but for now, it’s a great comfort to see in the mirror. I’m taking my body back, one flower at a time.”
“Maybe it’s not easy to see in the picture, but the body and tail of the cat-semicolon is covering up a cigarette burn. I have another cigarette burn on the other side of my wrist. I put those burns there deliberately. After my biggest breakup of my life in 2013, I could barely get a grasp on who I was.
“Last year I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I still struggle, but I still fight. I decided to get a semicolon tattoo. I asked the tattoo artist to put cat ears on it. Whether he wanted to be or not, PJ, my now-almost-17-year-old-cat was my biggest supporter. During the darkest times he would come to me when he knew I was upset rather than hiding in the corner like he usually would to have his own personal space. I believe that he loved and felt for me. He gave me comfort.”
“I got this one to cover up scars from self-harm. I had a really bad one that stuck out and I felt like everyone could see it and was judging me. I got it on a Wednesday night after another friend died from an intentional overdose. I wanted to remember my friend and it goes with another tattoo of blackbirds I have from the Beatles song ‘Blackbird.’ (‘Take these broken wings and learn to fly.’) Today I am three years free of self-harm!”
“This tattoo was designed by my ex/bff of 10 years and I got it to cover self-mutilation scars from when I was a teenager. It’s Maa Durga and she is a badass goddess. So now instead of remembering depression, I remember to be a badass warrior like Maa Durga. The square root reminds me I’m ‘radical.’”
Responses have been edited for clarity and/or length.
Obviously we do give emotional support, but we have degrees and are medically skilled. We put in IV drips, top up epidurals, give insulin infusions, take blood, and stitch up skin in the most intimate places you could possibly imagine.
Being the first person to touch and hold a new life is breathtaking. No matter how long, messy, stressful, or tiring our day is, delivering babies never loses its wow factor. Contributing to a child’s journey into the world is a truly magical feeling.
Witnessing someone transform into a parent is truly momentous. You see their body language completely change and soften. And in an instant, the scene changes from one of drama to one of utter peace and joy. It’s fantastic.
That is, the look of wonder on a woman’s face when she sees her baby for the first time. It’s what makes absolutely everything worthwhile, and it’s why our jobs don’t put us off having babies of our own. We know the sheer joy and immediate love women feel when they first hold their baby, and we want to experience that.
And that’s especially true when you first qualify. Suddenly realising that you’re holding the life, health, and wellbeing of more than one person in your hands is daunting, and all the training in the world can’t take that feeling away completely.
When you say “isn’t he/she beautiful?” and we say yes, we genuinely mean it. There’s no such thing as a funny-looking baby in our eyes. We know they come in all shapes and sizes, and we’ve seen every shape and size there is.
We don’t often have time, mind you, but when a new mother offers you her baby for a bit of a smoosh, who can resist? Also, one of our favourite parts of the job is that unique “new baby” smell. They should make it into a car air freshener.
We can’t stress this enough: We really don’t mind, we’re used to it, plus it’s just a fact of life. But some women worry and fixate on it to the extent they don’t push effectively, which can make labour last longer. In short, please just poo.
Taking selfies, wandering off, being bad-tempered, and, of course, playing Pokémon Go (this guy was OK, though, as his wife found it funny). Sometimes you want to tell the woman in labour that she’d probably be better off being a single parent. But of course, you don’t. You just tell her partner off instead.
Mums in labour swear, shout, call us over constantly, and make lots of demands, but that’s all fair enough. What’s worse is when women and their partners become physically aggressive, which happens more often than you think.
You see people at their worst, but you also see people at their best. Even though we’re rushed off our feet and have to split our time between dozens of women, we always feel privileged to be part of such an important day in their lives.
We usually have to spend quite a long time calming these upset mums down. Outcomes for premature babies are often good, and being distressed won’t help them cope with childbirth. We try to keep things as positive as possible.
Christmas and New Year excesses lead to a big spike in the birth rate around September, and we end up run off our feet. So if you don’t want a new bundle of joy just yet, don’t forget to take precautions at those festive parties.
Unfortunately not everyone is suitable to be a parent. Sometimes women are subject to a court removal order, meaning that you have to help social workers remove the baby, and comfort the mother. Also, some babies are born addicted to heroin or other drugs and experience withdrawal, which is always hard to see.
We do 9- or 12-hour shifts on a changing rota, which means we can’t guarantee having a day off on special occasions. Also, we regularly work over the end of our shifts completing our extensive paperwork: risk assessments, individual needs forms, care plans, catheter forms, cannula forms…it feels endless.
We usually don’t have time to have lunch, or more than one drink in 14 hours. We never sit down for more than five minutes, and that’s only if we’re really lucky. Basically, we’re always knackered, footsore, and hungry.
Things do go wrong during birth, especially as we’re dealing with an increasingly unhealthy population. A midwife’s registration is in our own hands, and in challenging situations, some days you’ll feel like you’ve kissed it goodbye.
If a baby is stillborn, it’s always a tragedy. We always take careful care of these beautiful babies, wash and dress them, take photographs of the parents with their baby, write a name tag, and create tiny hand and foot prints that they will treasure forever. These things help to make a terrible situation a tiny bit more bearable.
Sometimes they’re tears of joy, sometimes they’re tears of exhaustion, sometimes they’re tears of worry, sadness, and frustration. No one said being a midwife was easy, but the majority of us didn’t expect it to be quite so hard.
It’s deeply emotionally draining to support mums in labour, and if you’re on a long shift you’re often too exhausted to have much in reserve by the end. Occasionally you’ll feel like you can only give basic support, which doesn’t feel great.
We’d be lying if we said we didn’t occasionally think about quitting, especially after a really tough shift. But the majority of us wouldn’t move away from midwifery. We’d miss “that look” way too much. Not to mention all the cuddles.
This post was compiled with the help of an NHS hospital midwife. Also H/T studentmidwife.net.